The Sexual Revolution of the 60’s and 70’s Was the Tip of the Iceberg: Top 4 Ways We’re Still Sexually Repressed

My friend argues we no longer sexually repressed. I assume by “we” he meant modern Americans (and maybe Europeans, Canadians and Australians), but I am going to respond on behalf of civilized humans in general.

Let me count the ways civilized humans are still sexually repressed:

1. Genital Mutilation. First consider that a good chunk of the global population — male and female — was sexually tortured at birth or in early childhood, having part of their genitals removed from their bodies.

From this they received physical loss of sexual function and the subconscious message that their sex organs are bad, wrong, shameful and dirty.

Between 80 and 90 percent of American adult males are circumcised (thank god the rate of American newborns being circumcised is down to its tipping point, around 50 percent). Many more “civilized” European nations have already abolished the practice.

2. Clothing. I would’ve put this as the #1 obvious example of repression, but circumcision is so horrific I had to give it priority.

You can argue the purpose of clothing is to keep us warm until you’re blue in the face. If that were true, everyone living between the Tropic of Cancer and the Tropic of Capricorn would still be running around naked all year, and those of us slightly to the north and south of those lines would at least be allowed to be naked in the summer.

“Oh, my skin would burn,” you say. Hogwash. It’s called melanin. You build it up gradually by exposing yourself to the sun. It’s good for you. Ever heard of Vitamin D?

If you say you want to wear clothes because you’re into fashion, ask yourself why you’re so obsessed with fashion. What void are you trying to fill?

If you say you want to wear clothes because you’re embarrassed of your body, you’re only adding more evidence to my claim of sexual repression.

The reason we wear clothes is obvious. It was explained concisely in the Garden of Eden myth (which, according to the book Sex at Dawn, is an allegory for the human fall into agriculture and civilization):

Adam and Eve became aware of the fact they were naked and became ashamed. They covered their sex organs with fig leaves.

In other words, agriculturalist civilization builders realized no pyramids or castles or empires were going to get built if people were running around naked having sex all the time, so they made their genitals less functional via circumcision and covered them up with clothes so people would stop thinking about them all the time.

3. Monogamy. Legally, religiously and culturally enforced monogamy is the third big way we’ve been sexually repressed.

I’ve evolved past the point of bashing monogamy as a whole. I’m currently monogamous because polyamory complicates things in this backwards world we live in. Also, I think it’s possible to be spontaneously happily monogamous for various periods of time, for some longer than others.

That said, I have thoroughly documented the reasons why forcing/shaming people into monogamy is sexually repressive on this blog. But one of the quickest and easiest ways to prove this is that monogamy reduces testosterone/sex drive/libido in both men and women, causing them to have sex less often.

4. Slut Shaming. One of my friend’s main complaints is that women aren’t sluttier. In his words, women are more sexually selective or pickier about who they sleep with. They don’t want sex as often or with as many people as men do. Their sex drive isn’t as strong.

I feel I’ve blown these arguments out of the water with my posts The Myth of the Coy Female, I am Bonobo Woman, The Insatiable Woman and What’s a Girl Gotta Do to Get More Sex Around Here?

In response to posts like this, I’ve had hundreds of women message me (and/or join a secret discussion group I’ve created on the topic) confiding that they want more sex with more people too, but are afraid to tell their male partners/husbands.

I believe at our core — beneath all the programming and depressed libidos — a lot of women want a lot of good sex, and I think a lot of times that requires multiple partners for all the reasons listed above.

“So why aren’t they throwing themselves at me and all of the other sexually starved men?” my friend asks. He claims even most poly women are prudish.

“Who specifically is repressing them?” he asks.

Men like you, is my response. And don’t take that personally. Most men I know are like you because of their cultural conditioning.

I know so many poly men who wish more women were more sexually available — looser, sluttier, easier. But these same men don’t want their own girlfriends, wives (or potential future girlfriends or wives) to be sexually available to others.

For example, “I wish John’s was more willing to ‘share’ his girlfriend, but I don’t want to share mine.”

The problem is there are about an even number of men and women in the world, and what goes around comes around. You (straight men as a whole) can’t hope that most women will be slutty when it’s convenient for you, but that one of them will save herself for each of you and you only. It doesn’t add up.

Women, even poly women, aren’t sluttier because their male partners (or future male partners) don’t want them to be. They’re either afraid of being shamed or of hurting their partner’s feelings. I can’t tell you how many women I know who lie to their male partners about the number of men they’ve had sex with out of fear of being perceived as dirty or used.

I could obviously talk for hours about religion, sex-ed in public schools, and the fear-mongering and social stigma around STDs (as opposed to non-sexual illness), but those all seem too obvious and I’m tired.

In short, just because we had a sexual revolution in the 60’s and 70’s doesn’t mean we’re even close to fully sexually liberated. That was just the tip of the iceberg. We have 10,000 years of indoctrination to undo.

RELATED: Sexual Repression is the Foundation of Human Slavery

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