I just spent the morning reading about how orgasms are the fountain of youth – but not just any orgasms. Women need cervical orgasms.
According to sex and relationship coach Kim Anami, cervical orgasms are the Holy Grail of orgasms.
“The clitoris is a good warmup, but it was never meant to be the end game,” she says. “In the Taoist sexual reflexology system, the cervix is the heart point in women. When it is stimulated, and it opens, it is the keys to the feminine queendom.”
The clitoris is literally just the tip of the iceberg, she says, estimating it is responsible for less than 10 percent of the full female sexual experience.
While clitoral orgasms can create about 10 seconds of intense sensation, cervical orgasms can create hours – even days – of bliss.
This is because cervical orgasms create much more of the anti-aging hormone oxytocin. Oxytocin also increases your libido, so the more cervical orgasms you get, the more you want, and… the more oxytocin you create.
And… there is no limit on the number of cervical orgasms you can have in a row. After a clitoral orgasm, there is a refractory or “rest” period before a woman is ready for another. Cervical orgasms not only last longer (think plateau rather than peak), you can have dozens of them, back to back to back, increasing your oxytocin levels more and more, the longer you go.
The elusive cervical orgasm
The bad news is cervical orgasms – and internal orgasms in general – are epidemically rare. Around 70 percent of women “rarely or never” orgasm during intercourse.
Clitoral orgasms – the shallowest of the orgasms – are easy, because the clitoris is external. All you have to do is look at it and rub. The G-spot, located about half a finger into the vagina is a little trickier. But the cervix – the heart of the vagina – is harder to reach, and requires much more time and patience to stimulate properly.
Though I’ve tried and tried, I’ve personally been unable to give myself cervical orgasms through masturbation. I’ve experienced them only a couple dozen times during penis-in-vagina intercourse over the last year and a half.
This has presented a maddening problem for me, as it means my happiness is dependent on someone else. And the two someone elses I was hoping could help me along my quest are not interested.
Until I find someone willing and able to unlock my “cervical gateway to enlightenment,” I’m going try the Nine Steps to Ecstatic, Spiritual Orgasms in the video below, and maybe sign up for this online “self-cervix” course. Feel free to join me on my my quest!
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