The Death of Marriage

I have to admit, even Brad and I suffered from short bouts of wedding fever when we first met. Shortly after we started dating, he left town for an old friend’s wedding. He called me drunk during the reception and started ranting about how much cooler his wedding was going to be someday. “I’m going … [Read more…]

Marriage is Codependence

My boyfriend – Brad – came across this article recently about how to restore passion to your marriage by overcoming codependency. He seemed excited about it, as if it could be the solution to all of our problems. Interdependence – not codependence – is the key to a happy, lasting marriage, says the psychologist author … [Read more…]

“Humans Are Evolving Toward Polyamory, But We Can’t Grow Out of Monogamy Until We Learn Self Love,” Guru Says

My new spiritual guru Teal Swan says the era of marriage is coming to an end and polyamory is the way of the future, but we can’t just jump into the lifestyle without preparing ourselves emotionally and spiritually. “As a species, when we evolve to a higher vibratory rate, the perception of separation will dissolve, … [Read more…]

The Sexual Revolution of the 60’s and 70’s Was the Tip of the Iceberg: Top 4 Ways We’re Still Sexually Repressed

My friend argues we no longer sexually repressed. I assume by “we” he meant modern Americans (and maybe Europeans, Canadians and Australians), but I am going to respond on behalf of civilized humans in general. Let me count the ways civilized humans are still sexually repressed: 1. Genital Mutilation. First consider that a good chunk … [Read more…]

The Inconvenient Truth About Monogamy

It’s not natural. Before you blow your top, hear me out. I’m not saying it’s “not natural” in the sense religionists say homosexuality is “not natural.” I’m saying it in the same sense I would say eating grains is “not natural” – meaning you can do it, it’s just not going to be easy.

Why Men Cheat

And it Has Nothing to Do With You (Ladies) As the daughter of a father who cheated on all four of his wives, my expectation that men are bound to get bored and eventually stray is partly what made the discovery of the option of polyamory so appealing to me. From my observations growing up, … [Read more…]

I Am Bonobo Woman, Hear Me Moan

“Bonobo Woman,” “hedonist,” “pervert,” “selfish,” “narcissistic,” “delusional,” “lunatic,” “whining hippy,” “human blow-up doll,” and mother of an “illegitimate” future “whore”… These are all names I was called simply for asserting I was sexually dissatisfied and questioning the naturalness of monogamy. I guess I should’ve expected this kind of reaction from the socially conservative audience of … [Read more…]

The Myth of the Coy Female and The Origins of Slut Shaming

Hysteria and Nymphomania Dear female readers, have you ever suffered from “anxiety, sleeplessness, irritability, nervousness, erotic fantasy, sensations of heaviness in the abdomen or vaginal lubrication?” Have no fear, you’re probably just suffering from – get this – hysteria. Nevermind that your symptoms are identical to those of sexual frustration, if you had asked for … [Read more…]