Permanence vs. Life

Woke up at 5, like I often do, and held on as tight as I could to Brad and Nora. Things are strange at 5 in the morning. Undistracted by the worries and chores of the day, I have a moment to put all of my focus into the things that matter – Brad and … [Read more…]

“Attacking Monogamy”

A lot of people have accused me of “attacking monogamy.” I’m not exactly sure what to make of that. I don’t know why anyone would take offense to me attacking a concept, but I suppose what people are really saying is they feel that I am attacking them personally. I can assure any of you … [Read more…]

Fighting in Isolation

Just wanted to quickly complain about how much fighting sucks in the isolated, co-dependent context of monogamy. I can only imagine how much smoother fights between romantic partners would go and how much more quickly issues would be resolved in the context of a polyamorous village. I’m sure some of you think that sounds nuts, … [Read more…]


June. I can’t think of a more appropriate name for her. Like Anais Nin’s June, she is beautiful, mysterious, mystical and enchanting – a true bohemian Gypsy woman. The first time I really met her, last winter, she wore a tiny red shirt under over-sized engineer overalls, her wild hair disheveled and her giant eyes … [Read more…]

Satiating Sexual Hunger

I wrote my last couple of posts (here and here) from a place of sexual scarcity (which is the state I now believe long-term monogamy will lead most people to). But since then – in the last seven days – I have satisfied all my sexual longings (at least for the moment) with the help … [Read more…]