A Time for Monogamy

As I’ve said in the past, polyamory is for the privileged. In a world that values economic productivity over personal growth and relationships, most of us are programmed to spend more time keeping up with the Joneses than we are connecting with our loved ones. At the end of a long day or week of … [Read more…]

Feeling Like a Failure

I had such a good thing going with Brad. The last three weeks were the best of our almost-7-year relationship. We’d never been more intimate or gotten along so well. Wanting to further heal our relationship – that had recently come so close to ending – I volunteered to be monogamous until we felt solid … [Read more…]

Processing and Staying Strong

I’m so angry right now. I want to break things and then run away. I want to hurt him. I want to punish him. Ok, the anger is dissipating. I already feel better, just typing that out. Our friend, who is a therapist, was just here trying to facilitate an NVC conversation between us that … [Read more…]

Focusing on Myself

I just remembered Brad’s on a date with a new woman. He’s been gone almost three hours now, and I just realized it. I consider that progress. In the past I’ve been anxious from the moment he starts getting ready to the moment he tells me the whole story the next day. But little by … [Read more…]