The last year and a half has been a journey of sexual and spiritual awakening.
My partner Brad and I have experienced many ups and downs, and twists and turns along the way. We’ve opened ourselves to connecting with others on various levels and have had our hearts broken again and again in the process. But each time our hearts are broken, they expand. And after they heal, they have a greater capacity for love and deeper connection the next time around.
Recently, Brad and I have decided to transition our relationship from our former labels of “life-partners” and “boyfriend and girlfriend” to “best-friends, roommates and co-parents” in an effort to encourage more respect for each others’ autonomy and freedom.
In a way, Brad has been closer than a husband to me for the last six years, and as the beloved father of my child, he will always be my family. In another way, our interdependent relationship as co-parents had nearly smothered our sex life to death by the time we decided to let other people in to help revive it.
Over time, we both realized the primary goal shouldn’t necessarily be to revive our sexual connection with each other, but sexual awakening and fulfillment for each of us as individuals, while simultaneously fostering a secure sense of family/tribe for both of us and, most importantly, for our daughter.
We have no idea where we’re going or where we’ll “end up” – but we do know it’ll never be boring, that we’ll continue to learn and grow, and that we can never have too much love.
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